     Voigtkampff | Friday, January 28, 2000 - 08:00 am 
I have heard that women like it when men cry. I dated Mephisto for a while, but she only liked it when she made me cry. That does not indicate a blanket, general appreciation for male tears.
I told an attorney friend of mine that he needed to be more sensitive. He's a man's man. Or worse, an attorney's attorney. He is so aggressive that it makes me laugh sometimes. He told me that he once cried in front of a woman, and it freaked her out - in a bad way. She actually told him never to do that again. Now that's funny.
Apparently some women perceive men as a support structure that cannot have any weaknesses. I, on the other hand, cried when Spock died in The Wrath of Khan. That reminds me - even Spock cried in one episode and no one ever maligned his manhood as a result. Chapel liked him more for it.
So which is it? Good or bad, and why. |
| kristy | Sunday, January 30, 2000 - 08:47 am
Good. It means that you have emotions and that you're unafraid to express them. These qualities (being gutsy, geniune and caring) are requirements for me to consider anyone a friend (or more). I feel sorry for guys sometimes because they do not have this freedom the way we do. |
| Pat | Sunday, February 13, 2000 - 07:33 am
Dear Voigt Kamp; Have you told your mom? Or your best friend? Maybe you should visit a womans support group or womans movie review group, or simply try some Sam-e. I hear that helps. Sometimes when I cry in front of a woman, I feel so, I don't know, feminie I guess. I cried when I paid 8$ to see "Eyes Wide Shut" and there were plenty of women there that thought that was weird, not good or bad. But it was sad when Spock died. He is so handsome. Anyway Voigt, stay strong, and get a lot of hugs this week. |
| Voigtkampff | Sunday, February 13, 2000 - 07:41 pm
OK that was pretty funny! The androgynous name was a nice touch. |
| Anonymous | Wednesday, February 23, 2000 - 11:51 am
Dear Voigt:
It seems that most of your postings here (very entertaining, and I do love it!) are geared towards the heterosexual dating crowd. Not that I'm gay, but I do have a friend who is, so anyway as I was saying... your issues are so very different. I mean at least you guys have guidlines to follow, rules to abide by. All those "shoulds" that drive you mad. You feel the pressure to marry the perfect person "for you", to have offspring before it is too late, and then, to find an equal (tee hee) and live happily ever after with maybe only one incidence of divorce. My friend has, well some superficial issues, maybe you can help, superficial maybe to you, but they are "their" issues.
My "friend" has been struggling with the traditional idea of marriage, and how it will aplly to them and their lover. They both want to wear teletubbie suits to their wedding reception, and they are afraid it will have an adverse affect on their regular clothing designor Pierre. They don't want to hurt him, but it is a strong mutual desire for them both. I am lost, I too am very fond of Pierre. Please help, love Pat |
| Voigtkampff | Wednesday, February 23, 2000 - 12:31 pm
I actually just went to my first gay wedding. It was called a domestic partnership - sounds like a local alternative to forming a corporation. Huge fun. I actually danced with the bride, I think.
I forget which of the teletubbies was the "gay" one. I think it was the purple one. Don't forget that purple is the color of royalty (and camaros). Really. I think my tassel was purple. So what is wrong with a wedding in the color of purple? Nothing. Traditional weddings are boring.
You talk about pressure and superficiality. But the real pressure for a heterosexual, at least for me, when we get married is how to have a weddign that is really novel and different, but still tasteful. Your "friend" may have answered my question! So I am just as superficial.
I suggest letting Pierre make some of the final touches to the teletubby tuxedos so that he feels some participation. Make it his own. There is so much room for modification. Start with the antennae. |
